The Big Question

The big question that we get now is.... "So, when will you get your baby?"
That is a good question, indeed! The best answer that I have is, "I don't know."

With pregnancy comes a certain amount of predictability about when the big day will be... Of course it varies a bit, but typically you know about when you'll be bringing a baby home.

Well, evidently being pregnant is not in the big plans for me, so I don't get to know about when this will all happen. With adoption comes a lot of uncertainty and unpredictability - It depends on when someone picks us. We might not get the call that we've been picked for a few months yet.... or it might be longer. Or, we could get the call next week... or tomorrow! And it depends on when the birthmother that picks us is due to have the baby. Maybe she won't be due for a few months yet. Or maybe the baby will be due within a day or two! And, of course, it depends on if everything goes smoothly once the baby is born.

So, again, a lot of unknown... In the meantime, we're preparing to welcome a baby into our home, because it could be any day. We're reading and talking and preparing - like any other family who is going to have a baby soon would do.

Evidently it's hard for some people to understand why we're preparing for a baby since I'm not actually pregnant. I've had people question why I'm thinking about baby things, or why I would be getting a nursery ready, etc. (You're doing that already?) Here's the thing: If I was pregnant, no one would question why I am getting ready for a baby... but this waiting period IS like a pregnancy for us -- without actually getting to be pregnant. We've got the same big change coming without the benefit of knowing exactly when it will happen... I think about what it would be like to wait until the baby gets here to start making a plan or to start getting what we'll need, and that sounds awfully stressful to me! And from what I've heard, bringing a baby home is already stressful enough. So... while we wait for news that someone has picked us to be the parents of their baby, I'm enjoying the process of getting ready. It's awesome! It makes me feel excited about what's in store for us, and I'd much rather be prepared than not.

So, when will we get a baby?  I don't know... but I am very, very much looking forward to the big day!!